Refer a Client for Therapy
Thoughtful, Experienced Psychotherapy in NYC & Weston, CT
One of the things I’ve valued most throughout my career is the trust we place in one another as colleagues. Over the years, I’ve referred clients when I believed they would benefit from another therapist’s or practitioner’s expertise or perspective. Likewise, therapists, psychiatrists, physicians, attorneys, social workers, spiritual guides, coaches, and other helping professionals have referred clients to me.
When a colleague refers a client to me, I know that they’re placing trust in both the therapeutic process and in my work as an experienced therapist. I value that trust and approach every referral with the same care, thoughtfulness, and commitment I’ve brought to my work throughout my career.
How to Refer a Client
If you believe I’d be a good fit for someone you’re working with, I invite you to encourage them to contact me directly to schedule an initial consultation. With the client’s written permission, I’m also happy to collaborate with referring professionals to support continuity of care or to answer any questions you may have before you refer a client.
Areas of Focus: Couples Therapy · Affair Recovery · Therapy for Men in Midlife · Therapy for Older Adults · Individual Therapy for Anxiety, Depression, and Anger · Spiritual Counseling and Meditation
Approach: Clinically-grounded Western modalities, including psychodynamic and Gestalt therapy; counseling integrated with mindfulness and Eastern contemplative practice
Upper West Side, New York City
235 West 76th Street, Suite 1B New York, NY 10023 (212) 874-9402
Weston, Connecticut
11 Sasqua Trail Weston, CT 06883 (203) 544-9116
Experience Brings Perspective
Nearly fifty years of practice have taught me that what matters most isn’t simply what we know. It’s how deeply we’ve listened.
After thousands of hours sitting with people through depression, anxiety, relationship struggles, grief, betrayal, illness, family conflict, and life’s many transitions, certain themes emerged. Every person’s story is unique, but much human suffering grows from similar places. We long to be understood. We struggle with loss, shame, blame, guilt, loneliness, fear, and disappointment. We also repeat patterns that once protected us but no longer serve us.
My work begins with listening and building a therapeutic relationship in which clients feel understood and accepted. From there, we work together to explore patterns and develop a deeper awareness and broader perspective. This becomes the foundation for change that is authentic, lasting, and genuinely aligned with what each client needs.
Working With Complex Cases
Over the decades, my practice has evolved to include many clients whose situations require patience, depth, and thoughtful attention. Much of this work has involved:
- Clients who have worked with several therapists without finding a good fit or meaningful progress
- Couples experiencing significant conflict, infidelity, or considering separation
- Men who are uncertain about therapy or navigating the challenges of midlife
- Adults struggling with long-standing patterns of anger, shame, guilt, self-criticism, avoidance, or relationship difficulties
- Older adults facing grief, retirement, changes in identity, and the challenges of aging
These situations rarely have quick or simple solutions. They often call for the perspective that develops through many years of clinical practice.
I also work with all adults and couples seeking thoughtful, insight-oriented psychotherapy.
Couples Therapy and Infidelity Recovery
An important part of my practice has been working with couples navigating the aftermath of infidelity.
Few experiences are as painful or disorienting for a relationship. Affairs often leave both partners questioning not only the future of the relationship, but their own sense of identity, trust, and emotional safety.
Over many decades in practice, I’ve learned there is no specific formula for healing after an affair. Every relationship is different, and every couple brings a unique history into the room. What has remained consistent is my belief that meaningful healing begins with honesty, curiosity, and a willingness to understand what happened rather than assign blame.
Some couples ultimately rebuild their relationship with greater openness and intimacy. Others discover that their paths need to diverge. My role is to help couples move through one of the most difficult experiences of their lives with clarity, compassion, and integrity.
Therapy for Men in Midlife
I’ve spent many years working with men who are encountering feelings that they’ve spent decades keeping below the surface. These often include irritability, grief, anger, and burnout, along with the realization that the identity they built in their younger years no longer fully describes who they are today.
This isn’t a sign that something has gone wrong. Rather, it’s often a sign that a man finally has enough life experience to look inward in a way he couldn’t earlier in life. I help men understand what their emotions are pointing to and help them learn to work with them directly, without losing their sense of strength or capability.
Navigating the Second Half of Life
As I’ve grown older, my practice has naturally evolved.
While I continue to enjoy working with adults of all ages, I find myself drawn to issues that often emerge during the second half of life. These include retirement, changes in relationships, grief and loss, health concerns, and the recognition that time is finite. This stage of life also invites questions about spirituality, meaning, purpose, legacy, vitality, and how we want to live the years ahead.
These aren’t just clinical issues for me. They’re part of my own experience.
There is value in working with a therapist who has lived through many of life’s transitions. Certain conversations become richer with age, and understanding often deepens with experience. I’ve come to appreciate that shared life experience can deepen the therapeutic relationship, particularly for clients navigating the challenges and possibilities presented as we age.
My Approach to Psychotherapy
My work is clinically grounded in psychodynamic and Gestalt therapy and has been deeply influenced by mindfulness and Eastern contemplative traditions. While each approach has its own history and philosophy, they all share a focus on deepening awareness and understanding ourselves and the patterns that shape our lives.
It’s also important to note that while some clients need long-term support, I don’t believe that therapy should be indefinite. One of the most satisfying aspects of my work is seeing people reach a place where they feel ready to move forward on their own.
I appreciate your referrals. After nearly fifty years of doing this work, the trust my colleagues place in me continues to be something I value deeply.